|K&C at the shower|
We did a Blessingway ceremony instead of opening the gifts at the shower. Everyone brought one or two beads (there are twins brewing), and gave them some advice, some blessing, or a funny story about their relationship. The beads will be made into a necklace that C will wear as she gives birth to the babies. It is meant to encourage and remind her of all of the people with her and sending her strength for the birth.
I gave them two rose quartz hearts. I talked about how I've known K for many, many years, and C for a only a few, but how when I looked at them, I saw the love and warmth and support waiting for these babies. The two stones symbolize the duality of the twins to be, the duality of them as a couple, and the warm, radiating love of all of us waiting to welcome the babies to the family.
K's Mom gave an amazing blessing and had us all in tears, and C's brother sent wishes from him and their "passed over" parents.
There were many touching stories and wishes. K&C will be in good hands for support when these babies are born in January. I can't wait.
To close the ceremony, a Khalil Gibran poem was read. (Insert more tears here.)
On Children - Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.